It is important to emphasize that spiritual rebirth isn’t about a checklist of outward ordinances; it’s about what is happening inside of us—what is happening to our hearts and our natures. Sometimes we think the gospel is a one big checklist of things to do: go to Church, read the scriptures, say our prayers, serve others, pay tithing, etc. It is easy to fall into a robotic routine and focus on the outward action and not the inward purpose.
While the gospel actions are important, what is more important is what those actions do to us on the inside. If we do those actions with the right intent and purpose, then those actions will help us receive the Holy Ghost and help convert and change us. If not, then the Spirit cannot enter our heart and help us be changed and born again.
In addition, it’s not up to other people to convert us. Our parents, leaders, teachers, and friends can help us in coming unto Christ and being converted, but ultimately whether we are converted or not is totally between us and the Lord, and no one else. True to the Faith teaches: “You have primary responsibility for your own conversion. No one can be converted for you, and no one can force you to be converted.”6 Conversion is a matter of you exercising your agency by making and keeping sacred covenants. You can do it!
6. True to the Faith (Salt Lake City: The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, 2004), 43.