First of all, let’s define stalking.
v. stalked, stalk·ing, stalks
1. To pursue by tracking stealthily.
2. To follow or observe (a person) persistently, especially out of obsession or derangement.
Did you catch that? Obsessed and deranged people stalk other people. Are you supposed to be obsessed? Are you supposed to be deranged?
No! A thousand times, no!
Here’s the thing: you have to plan on living the rest of your life without him. Yes, some people break up and get back together, but it rarely ever lasts. It’s better to move on after the first breakup, and stalking is the opposite of moving on.
The actions of a deranged, obsessed person are beneath you.
So, don’t drive by his house to see if he’s there or not, or who might be there with him. Do not shine your bright headlights on his front porch to catch him kissing his new girlfriend. It will not make you feel better, and it will not help you heal. These are the actions of a deranged, obsessed person, and they are beneath you.
And besides that, restraining orders can really be a pain.