“As important as it is for a husband to respect and be genuinely touched by his wife’s sensibilities about sex, it’s equally important for her to respect his excitement about it, to truly allow it into her heart, not just try to “get what makes him tick” or even “be more accommodating.” Male sexuality is not the problem. In fact, it can become a key (and enjoyable) part of the solution when he keeps pursuing her sexually in patient, loving ways and she keeps her heart open to all of her beloved, including his sexuality.”
Mark Chamberlain
(Love You, Hate the Porn)