I saw a “Peanuts” cartoon once where Lucy is wearing her frowny face, and she says something like, “Whoever is in charge of my happiness isn’t doing a good job!” Hopefully someone, maybe Snoopy, let her know that SHE was the one in charge of her own happiness.
We never need to be ashamed or feel guilty about feelings of loneliness—but we do have to fight them. President David O. McKay and others have taught that some of our greatest battles are fought within our own hearts and souls. The battle to conquer feelings of loneliness isn’t easy, and there may be relapses. At times it can feel like loneliness is more powerful than we are. But we can succeed if we try hard to participate in meaningful activities and to avoid anger, self-pity, and criticism.
We can’t wait for happiness until someone comes along who we believe can make us happy. Choose happiness. Make a conscious choice to be happy. Work at it. Nurture it. Associate with people who happify you, and see if you can become a happifier.
We can each become our own best friend by doing things that we enjoy and treating ourselves well. We can treat ourselves now as we would like others to treat us.
Being alone doesn’t have to mean that we are unhappy, though we can certainly make it that way if we’re not careful. Take it one day at a time and stay committed in trying to solve your problems and find happiness. Consciously decide to work at making yourself a better, happier person.